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17 May 2019

HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE

AND IMPROVE SELF-TALK

Self-confidence help teenagers make safe, informed decisions. Confident teenagers can avoid people and situations that aren't necessarily right for them, in particular those related to the temptations of drinking.

Unfortunately, the number one hindrance to self-confidence is oneself! Before embarking on the path to building a healthy state of mind and self-confidence, we need to first reflect on an important building block on this path - self talk - that inner voice in the back of your head.

WAYS TO TALK YOURSELF UP

According to Reach Out, an online mental health organisation, there are some ways to change the direction of your mentee's 'self-talk'. Share the below with them:

1.  Listen to what you're saying to yourself

Is your self-talk mostly positive or negative?
Each day make notes on what you're thinking.

2.  Challenge your self-talk

Is there any actual evidence for what I'm thinking?
What would I say if a friend were in a similar situation?
Can I do anything to change what I'm feeling bad about?

DAILY ROUTINES STRENGTHEN MENTAL HEALTH

It's not an easy skill or characteristic that one just picks up on day one. You have to help your mentee practice these daily observations about themselves and establish a couple of goals to work towards.

Download and use the following worksheet to help change your mentee's self-talk and improve their confidence.

Change your self-talk

Make a list of the positive things about yourself.

We recommend incorporating theses self-help exercises with a meditation session to help with clear and positive thinking.

Remember, to take the mentorship pledge to help us fight the cause against underage drinking in South Africa. Pledge to curb underage drinking.

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