11 August 2017

Know your

real self


When young people feel good about themselves, it sets them up for success in everything – from school to friendships. This can be attributed to having positive feelings like self-acceptance or self-confidence, which can help young people cope with issues that they may be experiencing. Getting to a place where they fully accept who they are requires finding themselves and establishing themselves as individuals. Getting to this point may not be easy for a young person.

This is where a mentor comes in. As someone who may also gone through times of self-doubt and low confidence, you have the tools to help mentees deal with these issues. If you’re not sure how to go about it, we’ve put together a mini guide to help you, help your mentees.

Why self-esteem matters?

Young people with low self-esteem may feel unsure of themselves. As a result, they may struggle to resist various pressures received from their peers. This is why as a mentor, you need to emphasise the importance of knowing and understanding oneself. Once your mentee is able to do this, they’ll be able to differentiate who in their circle of friends supports and encourages them positively. Having a strong self-esteem can also ensure that a young person knows their value and cannot be swayed to drink at any early age.

Be a positive mirror

A young person’s self-image does not only come from what they perceive about themselves, but also from what they think others perceive about them. So, when it comes to your mentee, let them know that their opinion matters, that they’re fun to be around and that they’re smart. When you give your mentee positive feedback, they’ll learn to think well and think positively of themselves. This will help build their self-confidence and will also help build their trust in you.  

#KnowYourWorth, that’s the motto

So what’s the main thing that you should be teaching your mentee? #KnowYourWorth, they should always be aware of how much they matter and how their actions could affect their character and their future. The main message to drive home is that as a young person, one should never feel the need to change their ‘real self’ for a ‘social self’ purely to fit in with the cool kids.

Help them build up enough confidence to trust themselves and stand by their values.


The key to guiding a young person lies in reminding them that they are not on their own. They are not the only person to ever go through issues of self-assurance and they can turn the pressure around. As a mentor, be their constant reminder that they should dismiss peer pressure and remain genuine.

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